How can I tell my spouse is cheating?

On Behalf of | Mar 22, 2019 | Family Law And Divorce

For most couples in Indiana, infidelity is a deal breaker issue. Because cheating is so serious, even the suspicion that your spouse is being unfaithful can cause endless strife in your marriage. While they may not apply to every couple, Very Well Mind explains some of the common signs of infidelity.

Financial changes

Most married couples have intermingled finances. As a result, unexplained expenses tend not to go unnoticed, especially when they’re recurring. There may be excessive credit card charges and money taken out of savings, or your spouse may put off planned purchases due to concerns about money. You might also find yourself fighting about money more often, and answers about expenses may not be forthcoming.

Guarded use of mobile devices

While it’s natural to protect one’s privacy, keeping secrets in a marriage is often a red flag. For instance, a spouse may password protect a device when it was never necessary before. He or she may also avoid social media or forgo use of shared devices, as well as clear the browser history frequently for any home computers. These behaviors don’t always indicate a problem, but when they emerge suddenly it’s natural for spouses to ask questions.

Changes in intimacy

Cheating spouses often exhibit changes in both emotional and physical intimacy. He or she may no longer feel comfortable expressing love, and your sex life may become nonexistent. You might also feel less of a connection since your spouse’s affections will be directed elsewhere. These changes are sometimes expressed in increased hostility or negativity. You may be the subject of harsh criticisms for behaviors that were never a problem before, or your partner may pick fights over seemingly inconsequential matters.