If you have children and have decided to get a divorce, you need to inform them about the decision as soon as possible. But how can you deliver the news while protecting them from the potential effects of a divorce?
By considering these three things:
1. Preparation
You and your soon-to-be ex-spouse should be prepared before talking to your children about divorce. Decide when and what to tell them. You should also list the questions to expect and determine how to respond to their possible reactions to the news.
Being adequately prepared can help you provide your children with the information they need.
2. Honesty
It’s crucial to be honest with your children while providing age-appropriate information about the divorce. Be clear that you are getting a divorce and will not be getting back together.
If they ask about subjects you don’t have adequate information about yet, like where they will live or if they will transfer schools, let them know you don’t have such information at the moment but will provide it once you do.
Lying or giving your children false hope can negatively impact how they cope with the divorce.
3. Reassurance
Reassurance is another aspect to consider when talking to your children about divorce. Remind your children that you love them, the divorce is not their fault and you and the other parent are on the same page about raising them. You should also inform them about the things that will remain the same, such as belonging to both homes and their daily routines.
Talking to your children about your divorce can be challenging. You need to be adequately informed about what to do to help them cope with the divorce and their new life.