Couples have different experiences when it comes to divorce. While some people have a more manageable process, many go through difficulty navigating divorce.
Below are three factors that can make divorce challenging:
The decision to get a divorce
The challenges can start from the word go – deciding to get a divorce. Are you doing the right thing? Should you give your marriage another chance? Will society view you as a failure? What if I regret my decision?
These are a few examples of the questions that can make it challenging to decide whether you want to dissolve your marriage. Talking to a therapist and taking time to be sure you want a divorce before having a conversation with your spouse can help you.
It’s not uncommon for people to believe that those who initiate divorce don’t experience pain, guilt, shame, anger and so on. But this is not the case. Both you and your spouse can experience these emotions.
Uncertainty
The feelings of uncertainty during divorce can complicate the process. You can be stressed not knowing if the divorce will be finalized with your interests protected or how you will live after the divorce.
Accepting that you may not get everything you want from the divorce can help you deal with uncertainty. You should also be comfortable with the idea that your life will change after the divorce.
Kids
If you have children, you may experience more difficulty during divorce, as you will be worried about them. How will the divorce affect them? Will they cope with moving between two homes? Will you handle not seeing them every day?
Having honest conversations with them and drafting a detailed parenting plan can ease your worry.
Divorce can be painful, sad and stressful. That’s why it’s vital to be adequately informed to smoothen your experience as much as possible.